Beat the holiday blues
Dec 21, 2011
For many, young or old, what is supposed to be “the most wonderful time of the year” may not be so wonderful. Why do the blues occur more acutely for some around the holidays? And what can we do to address these feelings? The causes of holiday-related depression are as diverse as those who suffer from it.
Some possible reasons might include:
- An individual’s family life may have been less than ideal, with the holidays being especially rough due to over-consumption of alcohol, domestic violence, poverty or the loss of loved ones.
- An individual might subscribe to a faith tradition in which Christmas is not celebrated. Or that individual may not be part of any faith tradition. People can feel pressured to be joyous or happy when they do not feel that way.
- During the holidays, losses can be “magnified.” These losses may include the death of a loved one or the loss of the ability to drive oneself around town or live independently. These losses can be especially difficult to cope with at this time of the year.
- Some people suffer from “Seasonal Affective Disorder” or SAD. It’s a mood disorder characterized by depression that usually manifests itself during winter, when natural sunlight is decreased.
- Commercialism associated with Christmas may be depressing to some because they believe the true meaning is diminished or lost amidst the hustle and bustle.
How can we recognize holiday blues, and what can we do to help?
- Assess your feelings and the feelings of loved ones by talking about them. This can be done informally or with assistance from professional counselors or clergy. Determine what feelings exist related to the holidays. Feelings may go undiscovered or unresolved simply because the right questions are never asked.
- In our Good Samaritan Society communities across the country, we strive to provide opportunities for residents to express and celebrate their particular beliefs and holiday traditions. As we might do in our communities, from time to time, you or your loved one may need to create a “holiday-free zone.” On the other hand, if someone is dealing with a loss, he or she might be more intentional about focusing on and maintaining a beloved tradition such as attending a candlelight service or viewing Christmas light displays.
- New opportunities can develop in our attempts to overcome the blues. These might include volunteering, joining a social group or visiting a resident in a nursing home who has no family available to visit.
Everyone has a unique mix of life experiences, cultures, traditions and memories surrounding the holidays. Take time to acknowledge and value your perspective and the perspectives of others. It can contribute immensely to alleviating feelings of depression and improving emotional well-being.
By Marya Burns, CMSW, MPA
Rehabilitation/Skilled Care Consultant
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